Gender Equality

As I get older, I am beginning to suspect that there's no such thing such as "Gender Equality".

Leaving the issue of workplace aside ('cause I still believe one should earn as much as the result one achieves, even though statistics between the two genders show otherwise), men and women think, feel, behave and even experience biologically differently.

I am beginning to think that there IS a reason why women (especially in the past centuries) are treated as the fairer sex. To be honoured, valued and treated gently. And I am beginning to see how this "Gender Equality" as much as many women are fighting for it, gets twisted, misinterpreted and instead, do the women in as well as helping them achieve the rights they need (especially in the case of abused women).

First up, let's just acknowledge that a man is not a woman, and a woman can never be a man (let's leave out the exception of hermaphrodites and some other rare cases).

A woman is able to experience pregnancy, or even if she chooses not to be impregnated, she is still subjected to the monthly (sometimes irregular at that) menstrual cycle, which in turn causes her to be more emotional due to the hormonal fluctuation. Let's also remember the (varying) discomfort she goes through during this phase. Her skin is also more sensitive to the sense of touch as compared to that of a man's, because men are evolved hunters from the past and a man's rough skin helps him weather the hunt. This explains why when a woman is angry with a man, she retracts from a man's touch by saying, "Don't touch me!" because she is more highly in tune with her sense of touch (I think therefore, all that sensation gets interpreted in her brain far more quickly and deeply, alongside with the positive or negative experience that connotes it. Can't remember exactly what was written in that article I read before, but something to this effect.)

Physically, may we say that it is safe to assume men are generally stronger than women?

I'm rather pissed actually at times when I see gender put-downs on forums. To my understanding today, it's not about who "win or lose". Let's just put it this way. Imagine a day comes when all members of the opposite sex disappear off the surface of earth. Can you imagine life without them? Even if you have very good same sex buddies to hang around with, can you imagine facing them ONLY day in and day out?

As to this so call issue "women, the fairer sex", I must admit several years back when I was still a teen, I used to feel very embarrassed when relatives or loved ones dare suggest a gender-stereotypical occupation I should take on in future, and to allow someone to "take care" of me. How dare they look down on me, a girl!? In my mind, I wanted to achieve more, to prove that I can be more independent and stronger than the submissive women of the past, more so than with the intention and actual idea what I truly want for myself at all, "thanks" to the media of the 80s, 90s and even as of now, portraying women as some self-sufficient creatures. I think many women, as well as men are affected by this, embracing this "Gender Equality" idea. More and more women now feel ashamed and appalled at the idea of being a stay-home mum (when they have the freedom to pursue high-flying career), and even if they do not feel so initially, perhaps they do later on by the influence of their peers. And because of this "Gender Equality" notion, guys are also behaving in a more and more ungentlemanly fashion, reasoning that why should they bother to do stuff for the ladies that ladies can easily do so for themselves (a notion also perpetuate by some women themselves because they feel "insulted" to be offered help too, even when it would actually be a welcome break for them). The men as a result, are not very ideal husbands, one that would give the support a wife needs. Thus, the social etiquette of "ladies and gentlemen" ceased, and in place, some "Gender Equality" appropriate measures that leave neither gender truly satisfied.

Are we moving towards an asexual humanity? If not, I think it pays to recognize what each gender really needs, instead of just crediting everything in the name of "Gender Equality" out of convenience and denial.

Men and women ARE different. And nope, not in a condescending way. Let us all give more due respect to each other, kay?